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Speaking as a long standing pick-up artist, the most common question I get asked is;

How to pick up more girl in Melbourne

As this article is written for the complete beginner, we’re going to examine some key concepts in cold approach that will help any guy on his pathway to meeting and dating more woman in Melbourne.


Everyone loves to hear about themselves. Especially women. Making playful assumptions about a girl is an excellent way to break the ice. Continually asking a girl direct questions will create a dry, boring, interview style interaction that won’t give her much reason to continue or contribute, so instead of repetitive, inane questions, we can use assumptions.

Let’s look at some examples turning questions into assumptions.

“What do you do?”                                                  

Becomes the assumption

“You don’t look like someone who grinds through a boring 9 to 5 job.”


“Do you work or study?”


“Looks like you’re carrying a bag full of books. You either love reading or study something academic.”

You won’t do this through the whole conversation (as with any technique or principle), it’s just a good way to gather momentum and avoid monotony. The second you see a girl you want to approach, try to come up with some sort of assumption about her. What does she study? Where does she work? What music does she listen to? Does she read? Try and come up with something before you approach her, which you can use in place of questions if you need to.

80/20 rule

Most people would rather talk about themselves than any other subject. Assume this is true for the girl standing in front of you.  Your job is to gather conversation threads from the beginning of the interaction and expand upon them. As a rough guide, 80% of the content should be about her, 20% about yourself. If she asks a question don’t dodge it, but don’t crap on about it for 10 minutes either. At some stage the dynamics will naturally go back to an even contribution, but remember, we’re trying to catch her attention and break the pattern in her day, and talking about her makes this much easier.

Nothing D and M

Avoid religion, politics, feminism – avoid anything that can wrap you up in a deep and meaningful conversation. This is not the time for it right now. Keep it fun, light and fluffy at the start. You want to build social comfort without eliciting any strong opinions.

Sounds simple, but this can take a while for some guys to figure out.

Being a deep thinking, introverted guy is a great thing, but when you continuously seek out deep conversation because you feel it’s the only way to connect, it becomes very limiting. D & M conversation threads works great to engage certain types of women, but they are few and far between. And the few girls that are actually engaged by D & M would probably go just as well if you kept it light for a while.

The reason for deep and meaningful conversation is that you don’t want to engage her logical mind, you instead want to set the tone for her to experience emotions.  When she sees your first text come up on her phone after the interaction ends, she will remember what emotions she has experienced with you. So unless the moment calls for it, stay away from analytical topics until later.

Remember, this is just a conversation. It doesn’t have to be as well scripted as a Tarantino film, and it shouldn’t look like a flashy YouTube clip of a guy doing entertaining shit to make a girl laugh. You don’t need to impress her with your world knowledge, intellect, work position or bank account. All you want to do is reach social comfort. Once there, you’re now a cool, calibrated guy she is ready to invest some time into.